splash the mud in which they live upon men of honor. But you can
always compel respect by showing that you are, under all
circumstances,
immovable in your principles. In the
conflict of
opinions, in the midst of quarrels and cross-purposes, go straight
to the point, keep
resolutely to the question; never fight except
for the
essential thing, and put your whole strength into that.
You know how Monsieur de Mortsauf hates Napoleon, how he curses
him and pursues him as justice does a
criminal; demanding
punishment day and night for the death of the Duc d'Enghien, the
only death, the only
misfortune, that ever brought the tears to
his eyes; well, he
nevertheless admired him as the greatest of
captains, and has often explained to me his
strategy. May not the
same
tactics be
applied to the war of human interests; they would
economize time as
heretofore they economized men and space. Think
this over, for as a woman I am
liable to be
mistaken on such
points which my sex judges only by
instinct and
sentiment. One
point, however, I may insist on; all trickery, all
deception, is
certain to be discovered and to result in doing harm; whereas
every situation presents less danger if a man plants himself
firmly on his own truthfulness. If I may cite my own case, I can
tell you that,
obliged as I am by Monsieur de Mortsauf's condition
to avoid litigation and to bring to an immediate settlement all
difficulties which arise in the
management of Clochegourde, and
which would
otherwise cause him an
excitement under which his mind
would succumb, I have
invariably settled matters
promptly by
taking hold of the knot of the difficulty and
saying to our
opponents: "We will either untie it or cut it!"
It will often happen that you do a service to others and find
yourself ill-rewarded; I beg you not to
imitate those who complain
of men and declare them to be all ungrateful. That is putting
themselves on a
pedestal indeed! and surely it is somewhat silly
to admit their lack of knowledge of the world. But you, I trust,
will not do good as a usurer lends his money; you will do it--will
you not?--for good's sake. Noblesse
oblige. Nevertheless, do not
bestow such services as to force others to
ingratitude, for if you
do, they will become your most implacable enemies; obligations
sometimes lead to
despair, like the
despair of ruin itself, which
is
capable of very
desperate efforts. As for yourself, accept as
little as you can from others. Be no man's
vassal; and bring
yourself out of your own difficulties.
You see, dear friend, I am advising you only on the
lesser points
of life. In the world of
politics things wear a different aspect;
the rules which are to guide your individual steps give way before
the national interests. If you reach that
sphere where great men
revolve you will be, like God himself, the sole arbiter of your
determinations. You will no longer be a man, but law, the living
law; no longer an individual, you are then the Nation incarnate.
But remember this, though you judge, you will yourself be judged;
hereafter you will be summoned before the ages, and you know
history well enough to be fully informed as to what deeds and what
sentiments have led to true grandeur.
I now come to a serious matter, your conduct towards women.
Wherever you visit make it a principle not to fritter yourself
away in a petty round of gallantry. A man of the last century who
had great social success never paid attention to more than one
woman of an evening, choosing the one who seemed the most
neglected. That man, my dear child, controlled his epoch. He
wisely reckoned that by a given time all women would speak well of
him. Many young men waste their most precious possession, namely,
the time necessary to create connections which
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