most complete celibacy, not less would the most
typical of modern men
shrink from the
prospect of a
lifelong fetterment to the
companionship of
an always fainting,
weeping, and terrified Emilia or a Sophia of a bygone
epoch.
If
anywhere on earth exists the perfect ideal of that which the modern
woman desires to be--of a labouring and virile wo
manhood, free, strong,
fearless and tender--it will probably be found imaged in the heart of the
New Man; engendered there by his own heighest needs and aspirations; and
nowhere would the most highly developed modern male find an image of that
which forms his ideal of the most fully developed
manhood, than in the
ideal of man which haunts the heart of the New Woman.
Those have
strangely overlooked some of the most important
phenomena of our
modern world, who see in the Woman's Movement of our day any
emotionalmovement of the
female against the male, of the woman away from the man.
We have called the Woman's Movement of our age an
endeavour on the part of
women among modern civilised races to find new fields of labour as the old
slip from them, as an attempt to escape from parasitism and an inactive
dependence upon sex
function alone; but, viewed from another side, the
Woman's Movement might not less
justly be called a part of a great
movementof the sexes towards each other, a
movement towards common occupations,
common interests, common ideals, and towards an
emotionalsympathy between
the sexes more deeply founded and more indestructible than any the world
has yet seen.
But it may be suggested, and the
perception of a certain
profound truth
underlies this
suggestion; How is it, if there be this close reciprocity
between the lines along which the
advanced and
typical modern males and
females are developing, that there does exist in our modern societies, and
often among the very classes forming our
typically
advanced sections, so
much of pain,
unrest, and
sexual disco-ordination at the present day?
The reply to this pertinent
suggestion is, that the disco-ordination,
struggle, and
consequentsuffering which
undoubtedly do exist when we
regard the world of
sexual relationships and ideals in our modern
societies, do not arise in any way from a disco-ordination between the
sexes as such, but are a part of the general upheaval, of the
conflictbetween old ideals and new; a struggle which is going on in every branch
the human life in our modern societies, and in which the determining
element is not sex, but the point of
evolution which the race or the
individual has reached.
It cannot be too often
repeated, even at the risk of the most wearisome
reiteration, that our societies are societies in a state of rapid
evolutionand change. The
continually changing material conditions of life, with
their
reaction on the
intellectual,
emotional, and moral aspects of human
affairs, render our societies the most
complex and probably the most mobile
and unsettled which the world has ever seen. As the result of this
rapidity of change and
complexity, there must
continually exist a large
amount of disco-ordination, and
consequently, of
suffering.
In a
stationary society where
generation has succeeded
generation for
hundreds, or it may be for thousands, of years, with little or no change in
the material conditions of life, the desires,
institutions, and moral
principles of men, their religious, political,
domestic, and
sexualinstitutions, have gradually shaped themselves in
accordance with these
conditions; and a certain
harmony, and homogeneity, and tranquillity,
pervades the society.
In societies in that rapid state of change in which our modern societies
find themselves, where not merely each
decade, but each year, and almost
day brings new forces and conditions to bear on life, not only is the
amount of
suffering and social rupture, which all rapid,
excessive, and
sudden change entails on an
organism,
inevitable; but, the new conditions,
acting at different angles of
intensity on the different individual members
composing the society, according to their positions and varying
intelligence, are producing a society of such marvellous
complexity and
dissimilarity in the different individual parts, that the intensest rupture
and disco-ordination between individuals is
inevitable; and
sexual ideals
and relationships must share in the
universal condition.
In a
primitive society (if a somewhat prolix
illustration may be allowed)
where for
countlessgenerations the conditions of life had remained
absolutely
unchanged; where for ages it had been necessary that all males
should employ themselves in subduing wild beasts and meeting dangerous
foes, polygamy might
universally have been a necessity, if the race were to
exist and its numbers be kept up; and society, recognising this, polygamy
would be an
institutionuniversally approved and submitted to, however much
suffering it entailed. If food were
scarce, the
destruction of superfluous
infants and of the aged might also always have been necessary for the good
of the individuals themselves as well as of society, and the whole society
would
acquiesce in it without any moral doubt. If an
eclipse of the sun
had once occurred in
connection with the appearance of a certain new
insect, they
mightyuniversally regard that
insect as a god causing it; and
ages might pass without anything arising to disprove their
belief. There
would be no social or religious problem; and the view of one man would be
the view of all men; and all would be more or less in
harmony with the
established
institution and customs.
But, supposing the sudden
arrival of strangers armed with superior weapons
and knowledge, who should exterminate all wild beasts and render war and
the
consequent loss of male life a thing of the past; not only would the
male be
driven to encroach on the
female's
domain of
domesticagricultureand labour generally, but the males, not being so largely destroyed, they
would soon equal and
surpass in numbers the
females; and not only would it
then become a moot matter, "a problem," which labours were or were not to
be performed by man and which by woman, but very soon, not the woman alone
nor the man alone, but both, would be
driven to
speculate as to the
desirability or necessity of polygamy, which, were men as numerous as
women, would leave many males without sex companions. The more
intelligentand
progressive individuals in the
community would almost at once arrive at
the
conclusion that polygamy was objectionable; the most
fearless would
seek to carry their theory into action; the most
ignorant and un
progressivewould determinately stick to the old
institutions as inherited from the
past, without reason or question; differences of ideal would cause
conflictand
dissension in all parts of the body social, and
suffering would ensue,
where all before was fixed and determinate. So also if the strangers
introduced new and improved methods of
agriculture, and food became
abundant, it would then at once strike the most far-seeing and readily
adaptable members of the
community, both male and
female, that there was no
necessity for the
destruction of their offspring; old men and women would
begin
seriously to object to being hastened to death when they realised
that
starvation did not
necessarily stare them in the face if they survived
to an
extreme old age; the most
stupid and hide-bound members of the
community would still continue to sacrifice parents and offspring long
after the necessity had ceased, under the influence of
traditional bias;
many persons would be in a state of much moral doubt as to which course of
action to
pursue, the old or the new; and bitter
conflict might rage in the
community on all these points. Were the strangers to bring with them
telescopes, looking through which it might at once clearly be seen that an
eclipse of the sun was caused merely by the moon's passing over its face,
the more
intelligent members of the
community would at once come to the
conclusion that the
insect was not the cause of
eclipses, would cease to
regard it as a god, and might even kill it; the more
stupid and immobile
section of the
community might refuse to look through the
telescope, or
looking might refuse to see that it was the moon which caused the
eclipse,
and their deep-seated
reverence for the
insect, which was the growth of
ages, would lead them to regard as
impious those individuals who denied its
godhead, and might even lead to the
physicaldestruction of the first
unbelievers. The society, once so homogeneous and co-ordinated in all its
parts, would become at once a society rent by moral and social problems;
and endless
suffering must arise to individuals in the attempt to co-
ordinate the ideals, manners, and
institutions of the society to the new
conditions! There might be
immense gain in many directions; lives
otherwise sacrificed would be spared, a higher and more
satisfactory stage
of
existence might be entered on; but the disco-ordination and struggle
would be
inevitable until the society had established an equilibrium
between its knowledge, its material conditions, and its social,
sexual, and
religious ideals and
institutions.
An analogous condition, but of a far more
complex kind, exists at the
present day in our own societies. Our material
environment differs in
every respect from that of our grandparents, and bears little or no
resemblance to that of a few centuries ago. Here and there, even in our
civilised societies in
remoteagricultural districts, the old social
conditions may remain
partlyundisturbed; but throughout the bulk of our
societies the substitution of
mechanical for hand-labour, the wide
diffusion of knowledge through the always increasing cheap printing-press;
the rapidly increasing
gathering of human creatures into vast cities, where
not merely thousands but millions of individuals are collected together
under
physical and
mental conditions of life which
invert every social
condition of the past; the
increasingly rapid means of locomotion; the