出 则 弟
Harmony between brothers and sisters
出则弟
路遇长 疾趋揖 长无言 退恭立
骑下马 乘下车 过犹待 百步余
长者立 幼勿坐 长者坐 命乃坐
尊长前 声要低 低不闻 却非宜
进必趋 退必迟 问起对 视勿移
事诸父 如事父 事诸兄 如事兄
Harmony between brothers and sisters
The elder sibling should show the younger family members great love.
And the younger ones should show respect.
I will
behave well with my brothers and sisters as this is a crucial part of family life.
If
everyone values
harmony above possession then
resentment is avoided
If
everyone is careful with their choice of words then upsets are quickly resolved
When people get together then the younger ones should ask the
elderly to
Eat first, take their seats first and walk ahead.
If an
elderly person calls for someone then I will hurry to find that person or offer my help instead.
I should show respect to the
elderly by using their family name and title,
I should be
modest and not show off my skills and talents unless asked to
When meeting an
elderly person on the road, I will quickly and
respectfully introduce myself
If he does not wish to talk I will give way and wait by the side.
If I am on a horse or
carriage I should get down and offer them a ride.
When they are moving away I should remain still until they are out of sight.
I should not sit before the elders are seated
But wait until they sit and ask me to.
I will speak
gently but not too quietly, so that they can easily hear me.
When meeting
elderly people I should approach quickly but leave slowly.
I will stand when answering a question, and keep eye
contact when we are talking.
It is good to show the same respect and care to uncles and aunts as I do to my parents
And have the same friendship with relatives as with my brothers and sisters.