not inquire why Rome isn't like Paris. If you ask them how they like our
hotels or our trains, they may possibly reply that they prefer their own,
but they will hardly
volunteer this opinion. But the American in England
and the Englishman in America go about
volunteering opinions. Are the
French more
discreet? I believe that they are; but I wonder if there is
not also something else at the bottom of it. You and I will say things
about our cousins to our aunt. Our aunt would not allow outsiders to say
those things. Is it this, the-members-of-the-family principle, which
makes us less
discreet than the French? Is it this, too, which leads us
by a
seeming paradox to
resentcriticism more when it comes from England?
I know not how it may be with you; but with me, when I pick up the paper
and read that the Germans are
calling us pig-dogs again, I am merely
amused. When I read French or Italian abuse of us, I am sorry, to be
sure; but when some English paper jumps on us, I hate it, even when I
know that what it says isn't true. So here, if I am right in my
members-of-the-family hypothesis, you have the English and ourselves
feeling free to be
disagreeable to each other because we are relations,
and yet feeling especially
resentful because it's a relation who is being
disagreeable. I merely put the point to you, I lay no dogma down
concerning members of the family; but I am
perfectly sure that
discretion is a quality more common to the French than to ourselves or
our relations: I mean something a little more than
discretion, I mean
esprit de conduits, for which it is hard to find a translation.
Upon my first two points, the right to
privacy and the mother-tongue, I
have lingered long, feeling these to be not only of prime importance and
wide
application, but also to be quite beyond my power to make lucid in
short
compass. I trust that they have been made lucid. I must now get on
to further
anecdotes, illustrating other and less subtle causes of
misunderstanding; and I feel somewhat like the author of Don Juan when he
exclaims that he almost wishes he had ne'er begun that very remarkable
poem. I
renounce all pretense to the French
virtue of
discretion.
Evening dress has been the source of many irritations. Englishmen did not
appear to think that they need wear it at American dinner parties. There
was a good deal of this at one time. During that period an Englishman,
who had brought letters to a gentleman in Boston and in
consequence had
been asked to dinner, entered the house of his host in a tweed suit. His
host, in evening dress of course, met him in the hall.
"Oh, I see," said the Bostonian, "that you haven't your dress suit with
you. The man will take you
upstairs and one of mine will fit you well
enough. We'll wait."
In England, a
cricketer from Philadelphia, after the match at Lord's, had
been invited to dine at a great house with the rest of his eleven. They
were to go there on a coach. The American discovered after
arrival that
he alone of the eleven had not brought a dress suit with him. He asked
his host what he was to do.
"I
advise you to go home," said the host.
The moral here is not that all hosts in England would have treated a
guest so, or that all American hosts would have met the situation so well
as that Boston gentleman: but too many English used to be socially
brutal--quite as much so to each other as to us, or any one. One should
bear that in mind. I know of nothing more English in its way than what
Eton answered to Beaumont (I think) when Beaumont sent a
challenge to
play
cricket: "Harrow we know, and Rugby we have heard of. But who are
you?"
That sort of thing belongs rather to the Palmerston days than to these;
belongs to days that were nearer in spirit to the Waterloo of 1815, which
a
haughty England won, than to the Waterloo of 1914-18, which a humbler
England so nearly lost.
Turn we next the other way for a look at ourselves. An American lady who
had brought a letter of
introduction to an Englishman in London was in
consequence asked to lunch. He naturally and hospitably gathered to meet
her various
distinguished guests. Afterwards she wrote him that she
wished him to invite her to lunch again, as she had matters of importance
to tell him. Why, then, didn't she ask him to lunch with her? Can you
see? I think I do.
An American lady was at a house party in Scotland at which she met a
gentleman of old and famous Scotch blood. He was wearing the kilt of his
clan. While she talked with him she stared, and finally burst out
laughing. "I declare," she said, "that's
positively the most ridiculous
thing I ever saw a man dressed in."
At the Savoy hotel in August, 1914, when England declared war upon
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- everyday [´evridei] a.每日的,日常的 (高中英语单词)
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- harmless [´hɑ:mləs] a.无害的,无恶意的 (高中英语单词)
- shrill [ʃril] a.(声音)尖锐的 (高中英语单词)
- hesitation [,hezi´teiʃən] n.犹豫,踌躇 (高中英语单词)
- serene [si´ri:n] n.&a.清澈的;宁静的 (高中英语单词)
- disclose [dis´kləuz] vt.揭露;透露;泄露 (高中英语单词)
- volunteer [,vɔlən´tiə] n.志愿者 v.自愿做 (高中英语单词)
- resent [ri´zent] vt.不满于;怨恨;忿恨 (高中英语单词)
- disagreeable [,disə´gri:əbl] a.令人不悦的 (高中英语单词)
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- distinguished [di´stiŋgwiʃt] a.卓越的,著名的 (高中英语单词)
- scotch [skɔtʃ] vt.&n.刻痕(于);划伤 (高中英语单词)
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- anecdote [´ænikdəut] n.轶事;趣闻 (英语四级单词)
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- molasses [mə´læsiz] n.糖浆,糖蜜 (英语四级单词)
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