Universities, and their great London, the one
eternal focus of them all,
both the chance of
diversity in social customs and the tolerance of it
must be far less than in our huge unfocused country. With us, Boston, New
York, Philadelphia, Chicago, San Francisco, is each a centre. Here you
can pronounce the word calm, for example, in one way or another, and it
merely indicates where you come from. Departure in England from certain
established
pronunciations has another effect.
"Of course," said one of my friends, "one knows where to place anybody
who says 'girl'" (pronouncing it as it is spelled).
"That's frightful," said I, "because I say 'girl'."
"Oh, but you are an American. It doesn't apply."
But had I been English, it would have been something like coming to
dinner without your collar.
That is why I think that, had my friend in the train begun his question
about the buildings by
saying that he was an American, the answer would
have been
different. Not all the English yet, but many more than there
were fifty or even twenty years ago, have ceased to apply their rules to
us.
About 1874 a friend of mine from New York was taken to a London Club.
Into the room where he was came the Prince of Wales, who took out a
cigar, felt for and found no matches, looked about, and there was a
silence. My friend
thereupon produced matches, struck one, and offered it
to the Prince, who bowed, thanked him, lighted his cigar, and
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presentlywent away.
Then an Englishman observed to my friend: "It's not the thing for a
commoner to offer a light to the Prince."
"I'm not a commoner, I'm an American," said my friend with perfect good
nature.
Whatever their rule may be to-day about the Prince and matches, as to us
they have come to accept my friend's pertinent
distinction: they don't
expect us to keep or even to know their own set of rules.
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surpass us in this, they make more
allowances for us than we
for them. They don't criticize Americans for not being English. Americans
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constantly do criticize the English for not being Americans. Now,
the
measure in which you don't allow for the customs of another country
is the
measure of your own provincialism. I have heard some of our own
soldiers express
dislike of the English because of their
coldness. The
English are not cold; they are silent upon certain matters. But it is all
there. Do you remember that sailor at Zeebrugge carrying the unconscious
body of a comrade to safety, not sure yet if he were alive or dead, and
stroking that comrade's head as he went,
saying over and over, "Did you
think I would leave yer?" We are more demonstrative, we spell things out
which it is the way of the English to leave between the lines. But it is
all there! Behind that unconciliating wall of shyness and reserve, beats
and hides the warm, loyal British heart, the most
constant heart in the
world.
"It isn't done."
That
phrase applies to many things in England besides
offering a light to
the Prince, or asking a fellow traveler what those buildings are; and I
think that the Englishman's notion of his right to
privacy lies at the
bottom of quite a number of these things. You may lay some of them to
snobbishness, to caste, to shyness, they may have various secondary
origins; but I prefer to cover them all with the broader term, the right
to
privacy, because it seems philosophically to
account for them and
explain them.
In May, 1915, an Oxford professor was in New York. A few years before
this I had read a book of his which had
delighted me. I met him at lunch,
I had not known him before. Even as we shook hands, I blurted out to him
my
admiration for his book.
"Oh."
That was the whole of his reply. It made me laugh at myself, for I should
have known better. I had often been in England and could have told
anybody that you mustn't too
abruptly or
obviously refer to what the
other fellow does, still less to what you do yourself. "It isn't done."
It's a sort of indecent
exposure. It's one of the
invasions of the right
to
privacy.
In America, not everywhere but in many places, a man upon entering a club
and
seeing a friend across the room, will not
hesitate to call out to
him, "Hullo, Jack!" or "Hullo, George!" or
whatever. In England "it
isn't done." The greeting would be conveyed by a short nod or a glance.
To call out a man's name across a room full of people, some of whom may
be total strangers, invades his
privacy and
theirs. Have you noticed how,
in our Pullman
parlor cars, a party sitting together, generally young
women, will
shriek their conversation in a voice that bores like a gimlet