Period 3: Function and Speaking-Talking about relationships

　　 Objectives

　　 To learn to speaking about relationships

　　 Procedures

　　 ▇ Questioning and answering about friends

　　 Hello, class. We shall have a question and answer period this time about "friends".

　　 1. Are there any famous stories of friendship in your culture? Describe one of your closest friends.

　　 2. Do you have any childhood friendships that are still strong today? Tell us about them.

　　 3. Do you have any long distance friends?

　　 4. How do you keep in touch with your long-distance friends?

　　 5. How often do you see your long-distance friends?

　　 6. Do you think it is a good idea to borrow money from a friend? Why or why not?

　　 7. Do you make friends easily?

　　 8. Has a friend ever let you down?

　　 9. Have you made any friends over the Internet?

　　 10. How often do you write to them?

　　 11. Have you ever met them in person?

　　 12. How are your friendships different now than they were when you were a child?

　　 13. How do you maintain a good friendship?

　　 14. How do you make new friends?

　　 15. How many people do you consider your "best friends?"

　　 16. Is it common to have friendships across generations?

　　 17. What are the advantages and disadvantages of these types of friendships?

　　 18. Do you have any friends from a different generation than you?

　　 19. There is a saying "To have a good friend, you need to be a good friend."

　　 20. How can you be a good friend?

　　 21. What do you usually do with your friends?

　　 22. What factors may result in the breakdown of a good friendship?

　　 23. What is a best friend?

　　 24. What is the longest friendship that you have had?

　　 25. What makes friends different from family?

　　 26. What qualities do you think are important in a friend?

　　 27. What is a friend?

　　 28. What things should friends never do?

　　 29. Why do you like your best friend?

　　 30. What are some things you like about your best friend?

　　 31. Where is a good place to meet new friends?

　　 32. Where is a good place to meet a new boyfriend/girlfriend?

　　 33. Do you think it is possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex without becoming a girlfriend or boyfriend?

　　 34. Do you think it would be possible for you still be friends with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

　　 35. There is a proverb that says, "A friend in need is a friend indeed." Do you agree?

　　 36. Do you believe that there is an end to any true friendships?

　　 37. Do you believe your parents should be your friends?

　　 38. What do you do if you receive a friend's call but you forgot his/her name?

　　 39. Friendship is the most important relationship. Do you agree? Why? Why not?

　　 40. What do you like best about your best friend(s)?

　　 41. What are some ways your best friend has influenced your life in a positive way?

　　 42. What are some ways your best friend has influenced your life in a positive way?

　　 43. How close do you get to your friends?

　　 44. Why do you need a friend?

　　 45. What do you do when you have a misunderstanding with your friend?

　　 46. Do you trust all of your friends? Why?

　　 47. What is the best time for making new friends?

　　 48. What was your best friendship?

　　 49. Are you still friends with him or her?

　　 50. What life lessons did you learn from this relationship?

　　 51. What qualities do you appreciate in your friends? What makes someone special or best friend?

　　 52. Why are friendships important for you? Do you still maintain friendships from the past?

　　 53. How long have you known your best friend? Where did you meet and what did you have in common?

　　 54. What are some good opportunities to meet new people?

　　 55. How can you get to better know a person?

　　 56. What is the relationship between love and friendship?

　　 57. Who is the most interesting person you have ever met?

　　 58. Do you think famous people are happier than ordinary people? Why?

　　 59. What type of people do you get along with best?

　　 60. What quality do you admire most in people and which one do you find the most objectionable?

　　 61. What behavior of others hurts you most?

　　 62. When you have upset someone by your actions, what do you try to do?

　　 63. What do you consider to be your good and bad qualities?

　　 64. What qualities help you to have good relationships with others?

　　 65. What traits or actions make an interpersonal conflict worse?

　　 66. Are relationships among people better or worse than a few years ago? Why? Give some examples.

　　 67. Do you think that dysfunctional family life contributes to worsening relationships in society?

　　 68. Is getting along with others a natural ability from birth or does it have to be learnt?

　　 69. How important is forgiveness in human relationships?

　　 ■Practicing ways of talking about relationships

　　 Said Abu Hurayrah: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

　　 A man follows the religion of his friend;

　　 so each one should consider whom he makes his friend.

　　 Making new friends Is easier than you may think. To find a friend, first, choose to be a friend.

　　 If you are wanting new friends, they'll be much easier to find if you can dismiss the idea that you are IN NEED of a friend and be able to change your approach to wanting to BE his or her friend.

　　 As the giver, you'll send out an entirely different subliminal message and be pleasantly surprised at how quickly that new friend shows up.

　　 This is true because if a certain spiritual law that says, "If you need it, you can't have it, but if you don't need it, you can have all you want."

　　 ● I've known him / her for (six years).

　　 ● We first met six years ago. I remember (meeting) him/ her for the first time.

　　 ● We're good/ close/ best friends.

　　 ● We (don't) get on very well. We (don't) trust each other.

　　 ● We (sometimes) quarrel.

　　 ● We see each other (from time to time).

　　 ● We've lost touch. / we still keep in touch.

　　 Characteristics of an effective speaker and listener

　　 *having clarity and confidence to convey a point of view or information;

　　 *using talk to explore, create, question and revise ideas, recognising language as a tool for learning;

　　 *being able to work effectively with others in a range of roles;

　　 *having a varied repertoire of styles, which are used appropriately.

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