HE THAT hath wife and children hath given hostages to fortune; for they are impediments to great enterprises, either of virtue or mischief. Certainly the best works, and of greatest merit for the public, have proceeded from the unmarried or childless men; which both in affection and means, have married and endowed the public. Yet it were great reason that those that have children, should have greatest care of future times; unto which they know they must transmit their dearest pledges.


成了家的人，可以说对命运之神付出了抵押品。因为家庭难免拖累事业，而无论这种事业的性质如何。所以是能为公众献身人，应当是不被家室所累的人。因为只有这种人，才能够把他的全部爱情和财产，都奉献给唯一的情人——公众。而那种有家室的人，恐怕宁愿把最好的东西留给自己的后代。

Some there are, who though they lead a single life, yet their thoughts do end with themselves, and account future times impertinences. Nay, there are some other, that account wife and children, but as bills of charges. Nay more, there are some foolish rich covetous men, that take a pride, in having no children, because they may be thought so much the richer. For perhaps they have heard some talk, Such an one is a great rich man, and another except to it, Yea, but he hath a great charge of children; as if it were an abatement to his riches. But the most ordinary cause of a single life, is liberty, especially in certain self-pleasing and humorous minds, which are so sensible of every restraint, as they will go near to think their girdles and garters, to be bonds and shackles.


有的人在结婚后仍然愿意过独身生活。因为他们不喜欢家庭，把妻子儿女看作经济上的累赘。还有一些富人甚至以无子嗣为自豪。也许他们是担心，一旦有了子女就瓜分现有的财产吧。有一种人过独身生活是为了保持自由，以避免受约束于对家庭承担的义务和责任。但这种人，可能会认为腰带和鞋带，也难免是一种束缚呢！

Unmarried men are best friends, best masters, best servants; but not always best subjects; for they are light to run away; and almost all fugitives, are of that condition.


实际上，独身者也许可以成为最好的朋友，最好的主人，最好的仆人，但很难成为最好的公民。因为他们随时可以迁逃，所以差不多一切流窜犯都是无家者。

A single life doth well with churchmen; for charity will hardly water the ground, where it must first fill a pool. It is indifferent for judges and magistrates; for if they be facile and corrupt, you shall have a servant, five times worse than a wife. For soldiers, I find the generals commonly in their hortatives, put men in mind of their wives and children; and I think the despising of marriage amongst the Turks, maketh the vulgar soldier more base.


作为献身宗教的，是有理由保持独身的。否则他们的慈悲就先布施于家人而不是供奉于上帝了。作为法官与师，是否独身关系并不大。因为只要他们身边有一个坏的幕僚，其进谗言的能力就足以抵上五个妻子。作为军人，有家室则是好事，这正可以在战场上激发他们的责任感和勇气。这一点可以从土耳其的事例中得到反证——那里的风俗不重视婚姻和家庭，结果他们士兵的斗志很差。

Certainly wife and children are a kind of discipline of humanity; and single men, though they may be many times more charitable, because their means are less exhaust, yet, on the other side, they are more cruel and hardhearted (good to make severe inquisitors), because their tenderness is not so oft called upon. Grave natures, led by custom, and therefore constant, are commonlyloving husbands, as was said of Ulysses, vetulam suam praetulit immortalitati.


对家庭的责任心不仅是人类的一种约束，也是一种训练。那种独身的人，虽然在用起来似很慷慨，但实际上往往是心肠很硬的，因为他们不懂得对他人的爱。 一种好的风俗，能教化出情感坚贞的男子汉，例如像优里西斯（Ulysses)那样，他曾抵制美丽女神的诱惑，而保持了对妻子的忠贞。

Chaste women are often proud and froward, as presuming upon the merit of their chastity. It is one of the best bonds, both of chastity and obedience, in the wife, if she think her husband wise; which she will never do, if she find him jealous. Wives are young men's mistresses; companions for middle age; and old men's nurses. So as a man may have a quarrel to marry, when he will.


一个独身的女人常常是骄横的。因为她需要显示，她的贞节似乎是自愿保持的。如果一个女人为丈夫的聪明优秀而自豪，那么这就是使她忠贞不渝的最好保证。但如果一个女人发现她的丈夫是妒忌多疑的，那么她将绝不会认为他是聪明的。在人生中，妻子是青年时代的情人，中年时代的伴 ，暮年时代的守护。所以在人的一生中，只要有合适的对象，任何时候结婚都是有道理的。

But yet he was reputed one of the wise men, that made answer to the question, when a man should marry, - A young man not yet, an elder man not at all. It is often seen that bad husbands, have very good wives; whether it be, that it raiseth the price of their husband's kindness, when it comes; or that the wives take a pride in their patience. But this never fails, if the bad husbands were of their own choosing, against their friends consent; for then they will be sure to make good their own folly.


但也有一位古代哲人，对于人应当在何时结婚这个问题是这样说的："年纪少时还不应当，年纪大时已不必要。"美满的婚姻是难得一遇的。常可见到许多不出色的丈夫却有一位美丽的妻子。这莫非是因为这种丈夫由于具有不多的优点而更值得被珍视吗？也许因为伴随这种丈夫，将可以考验一个妇人的忍耐精神吧？如果这种婚姻出自一个女人的自愿选择，甚至是不顾亲友的劝告而选择的，那么就让她自己去品尝这枚果实的滋味吧！

王佐良译本：《谈结婚与独身》

夫人之有妻儿也不啻已向命运典质，从此难成大事，无论善恶。兴大业，立大功，往往系未婚无儿者所为，彼辈似已与公众结亲，故爱情产业并以付之。按理而论，有子女者应对未来岁月最为关切，因已将至亲骨肉托付之矣。独身者往往思虑仅及己身，以为未来与己无关。

有人则视妻儿为负债。更有贪而愚者，以无儿女为荣，以为如此更可夸其富足。此辈或曾闻人议论，一云此人为大富，另一则云否也，其人有多子负担，其财必损。然独身之原因，最常见者为喜自由，尤其自娱任性之人不耐任何束缚，身上褡带亦视为桎梏。

未婚者为最好之友、最好之主、最好之仆，然非最好之臣，因其身轻易遁也，故亡命徒几全未婚。

未婚适合教会中人，因如先须注水于家池则无余泽以惠人矣。然对法官行政官等则无足轻重，彼辈如收礼贪财，劣仆之害五倍于妻。至于士兵，余尝见将军以渠等妻儿所望激励之，而土耳其人鄙视婚姻，故其士兵更为卑劣。

妻儿对人确为一种锻炼。单身者本可心慈过人，因其资财少耗也，实则由于不常触其心肠，反而更为严酷(因而适为审判异端之官)。庄重之人守规不渝，为夫常能爱妻，是故人云优利息斯"爱老妻胜过不朽也"。

贞节之妇自恃节操，不免骄纵。欲使妻子守贞从夫，夫须有智；如妻疑夫猜忌，则断难听命矣。妻子者，青年之情妇，中年之伴侣，老年之护士也，故如决心结婚，须善择时。

昔有智者答人问何时可婚，曾云："青年未到时，老年不必矣。"常见恶夫有良妻，是否由于此辈丈夫偶尔和善，更见其可贵，抑或此类妻子以忍耐为美德欤？可确言者，如妻子不顾友朋劝告而自择恶夫，则必尽力弥补前失。

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• mischief [´mistʃif]   n.伤害；故障；调皮   (初中英语单词)
• affection [ə´fekʃən]   n.友爱；慈爱   (初中英语单词)
• account [ə´kaunt]   vi.说明 vt.认为 n.帐目   (初中英语单词)
• charge [tʃɑ:dʒ]   v.收费；冲锋 n.费用   (初中英语单词)
• riches [´ritʃiz]   n.房地产；丰富   (初中英语单词)
• sensible [´sensəbəl]   a.感觉得到的   (初中英语单词)
• discipline [´disiplin]   n.纪律；训练   (初中英语单词)
• humanity [hju:´mæniti]   n.人类；人性；仁慈   (初中英语单词)
• exhaust [ig´zɔ:st]   vt.用尽，使精疲力尽   (初中英语单词)
• severe [si´viə]   a.严厉的；苛刻的   (初中英语单词)
• therefore [´ðeəfɔ:]   ad.&conj.因此；所以   (初中英语单词)
• constant [´kɔnstənt]   a.坚定的；坚贞的   (初中英语单词)
• jealous [´dʒeləs]   a.妒忌的   (初中英语单词)
• patience [´peiʃəns]   n.忍耐(力)；耐心；坚韧   (初中英语单词)
• restraint [ri´streint]   n.抑制；管束；克制   (高中英语单词)
• charity [´tʃæriti]   n.施舍；慈悲；博爱   (高中英语单词)
• indifferent [in´difrənt]   a.不关心的；中立的   (高中英语单词)
• corrupt [kə´rʌpt]   a.腐败的 v.败坏；贿赂   (高中英语单词)
• commonly [´kɔmənli]   ad.一般地；通常   (高中英语单词)
• amongst [ə´mʌŋst]   prep.其中之一 =among   (高中英语单词)
• tenderness [´tendənis]   n.娇嫩；柔软；温柔   (高中英语单词)
• loving [´lʌviŋ]   a.爱的，有爱情的   (高中英语单词)
• obedience [ə´bi:djəns]   n.服从；顺从   (高中英语单词)
• unmarried [,ʌn´mærid]   a.未婚的，独身的   (英语四级单词)
• transmit [trænz´mit, træns-]   vt.传送；播送；发射   (英语四级单词)
• humorous [´hju:mərəs]   a.富于幽默的，诙谐的   (英语四级单词)
• vulgar [´vʌlgə]   a.粗俗的；大众的   (英语四级单词)
• charitable [´tʃæritəbəl]   a.仁爱的；慈善的   (英语四级单词)