你长大独立的过程，对你的父母来说，可能却是一个艰难的调整和适应过程。他们还不习惯这个新的你--在他们心里，你还是他们的那个小不点呢。
The clothes you wear. The food you eat. The color of your bedroom walls. Where you go and how you get there. The people you hang with. What time you go to bed。
What do these things have in common, you're asking? They're just a few examples of the many hundreds of things that your parents controlled for you when you were a child. As a kid, you didn't have a say in very much that went on; your parents made decisions about everything from the cereal you ate in the morning to the pajamas you wore at night. And it's a good thing, too -- kids need this kind of protection and assistance because they aren't mature enough to take care of themselves and make careful decisions on their own。
But eventually, kids grow up and become teens. And part of being a teen is developing your own identity -- one that is separate from your parents'. It's totallynormal for teens to create their own opinions, thoughts, and values about life; it's what prepares them for adulthood。
为什么我与父母战事不断？
But as you change and grow into this new person who makes his or her own decisions, your parents may have a difficult time adjusting. They aren't used to the new you yet -- they only know you as the kid who had everything decided for you and didn't mind。
In most families, it's this adjustment that can cause a lot of fighting between teens and parents. You want to cover your walls with posters; they don't understand why you don't like your kiddie wallpaper anymore. You think it's OK to hang at the mall every day after school; they would rather that you play a sport。
Clashes like these are very common between teens and parents -- teens get angry because they feel parents don't respect them and aren't giving them space to do what they like, and parents get angry because they aren't used to not being in control or they disagree with the teens' decisions。
It's easy for feelings to get very hurt when there are conflicts like these. And more complicated issues -- like the types of friends you have or your attitudes about sex and partying -- can cause even bigger arguments, because your parents will always be intent on protecting you and keeping you safe, no matter how old you are。
The Upside
The good news about fighting with your parents is that in many families the arguing will lessen as parents get more comfortable with the idea that their teen has a right to certain opinions and an identity that may be different from theirs。
It can take several years for parents and teens to adjust to their new roles, though. In the meantime, concentrate on communicating with your parents as best you can。
Sometimes this can feel impossible - like they just don't see your point of view and never will. But talking and expressing your opinions can help you gain more respect from your parents, and you may be able to reach compromises that make everyone happy. For example, if you are willing to clean your room in order to stay out an hour later, both you and your parents walk away with a good deal。
Keep in mind, too, that your parents were teens once and that, in most cases, they can relate to what you're going through。
The clothes you wear. The food you eat. The color of your bedroom walls. Where you go and how you get there. The people you hang with. What time you go to bed。
What do these things have in common, you're asking? They're just a few examples of the many hundreds of things that your parents controlled for you when you were a child. As a kid, you didn't have a say in very much that went on; your parents made decisions about everything from the cereal you ate in the morning to the pajamas you wore at night. And it's a good thing, too -- kids need this kind of protection and assistance because they aren't mature enough to take care of themselves and make careful decisions on their own。
But eventually, kids grow up and become teens. And part of being a teen is developing your own identity -- one that is separate from your parents'. It's totallynormal for teens to create their own opinions, thoughts, and values about life; it's what prepares them for adulthood。
为什么我与父母战事不断？
But as you change and grow into this new person who makes his or her own decisions, your parents may have a difficult time adjusting. They aren't used to the new you yet -- they only know you as the kid who had everything decided for you and didn't mind。
In most families, it's this adjustment that can cause a lot of fighting between teens and parents. You want to cover your walls with posters; they don't understand why you don't like your kiddie wallpaper anymore. You think it's OK to hang at the mall every day after school; they would rather that you play a sport。
Clashes like these are very common between teens and parents -- teens get angry because they feel parents don't respect them and aren't giving them space to do what they like, and parents get angry because they aren't used to not being in control or they disagree with the teens' decisions。
It's easy for feelings to get very hurt when there are conflicts like these. And more complicated issues -- like the types of friends you have or your attitudes about sex and partying -- can cause even bigger arguments, because your parents will always be intent on protecting you and keeping you safe, no matter how old you are。
The Upside
The good news about fighting with your parents is that in many families the arguing will lessen as parents get more comfortable with the idea that their teen has a right to certain opinions and an identity that may be different from theirs。
It can take several years for parents and teens to adjust to their new roles, though. In the meantime, concentrate on communicating with your parents as best you can。
Sometimes this can feel impossible - like they just don't see your point of view and never will. But talking and expressing your opinions can help you gain more respect from your parents, and you may be able to reach compromises that make everyone happy. For example, if you are willing to clean your room in order to stay out an hour later, both you and your parents walk away with a good deal。
Keep in mind, too, that your parents were teens once and that, in most cases, they can relate to what you're going through。
- protection [prə´tekʃən]
n.警戒；护照；通行证 (初中英语单词) - assistance [ə´sistəns] n.协作；援助；帮助 (初中英语单词)
- normal [´nɔ:məl] a.正规的 n.正常状态 (初中英语单词)
- complicated [´kɔmplikeitid] a.结构复杂的；难懂的 (初中英语单词)
- intent [in´tent] a.专心致志的 n.意图 (初中英语单词)
- adjust [ə´dʒʌst] vt.调整；校准；使适应 (初中英语单词)
- meantime [´mi:ntaim] n.&ad.其间；同时 (初中英语单词)
- concentrate [´kɔnsəntreit] v.聚集；浓缩；全神贯注 (初中英语单词)
- everyone [´evriwʌn] pron.=everybody 每人 (初中英语单词)
- willing [´wiliŋ] a.情愿的，乐意的 (初中英语单词)
- relate [ri´leit] v.阐明；使联系；涉及 (初中英语单词)
- cereal [´siəriəl] n.谷类制食物；谷物 (高中英语单词)
- mature [mə´tjuə] a.成熟的 v.(使)成熟 (高中英语单词)
- decided [di´saidid] a.明显的；决定的 (高中英语单词)
- adjustment [ə´dʒʌstmənt] n.调整；适应；调解 (高中英语单词)
- lessen [´lesən] v.减少；缩小 (高中英语单词)
- eventually [i´ventʃuəli] ad.最后，终于 (英语四级单词)
- totally [´təutəli] ad.统统，完全 (英语四级单词)
- pajamas [pə´dʒɑ:məz] n.宽大的睡衣裤 (英语六级单词)
- identity [ai´dentiti] n.身份；同一性；一致 (英语六级单词)
- disagree [,disə´gri:] vi.不同意 (英语六级单词)
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