PICTURES of Lehman Brothers' employees appeared in newspapers across the world last week. Many who may lose their jobs were consoling each other by hugging.
But is this correct
etiquette for greeting someone? Should you use a hug, a kiss or just a friendly
handshake? Greeting people in the West can be a daunting prospect, and to make things worse habits are changing all the time.
With so many different social settings and relationships, one can easily get confused about how best to say "hello" or "goodbye". And with an ever-expanding
selection of greetings, from back-pats to hand-slaps, it can be hard to know where to start.
"It can be a minefield. There are so many rights and wrongs you are
normally best off simply smiling and letting the other person take the lead," suggests Ashley Spencer, a student from the UK.
Of course the main factor to consider is how well you know the person. As a general rule the closer you are to a person, the more intimate your greeting can be. However, even this is not always a rule that can be relied upon.
Consider this situation. You are in a bar with some friends and spot a work
colleague of the opposite sex. You have known the work
colleague for some time, but tend not to socialize outside of the workplace. How do you greet this person?
The BBC asked people this very question last year, and even though more than 20,000 people voted, no clear answer was
decided.
The problem is that everyone has different ideas about the issue, and this can cause
awkward situations. While some groups of close friends may kiss and hug each other when they meet, others may be more nonchalant.
Jasmine Gardner, a journalist from the UK, has her own system of greetings for different groups of friends. "School friends get one kiss, new acquaintances usually get a
handshake and friends from university get a nod of the head for hello and goodbye. But most importantly, people I don't particularly like, get nothing."
The real answer is to be adaptable to all situations. If you offer a
handshake but are approached for a kiss on the cheek, try and appear natural in accepting it. You need to strike a balance between not being over-familiar while also not appearing too uptight.
To further confuse the issue, there are different greetings between men and between women (See box). But whatever your approach to meeting and greeting, remember that if you are friendly, smiling and relaxed you should get along fine.
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