fascination. _You_ will get the after-headaches, the complainings and
grumblings, the silence and sulkiness, the
weariness and lassitude and
ill-temper that comes as such a
relief after
working hard all day at
being pleasant!
It is not the people who shine in society, but the people who
brightenup the back
parlor; not the people who are
charming when they are out,
but the people who are
charming when they are in, that are good to
_live_ with. It is not the
brilliant men and women, but the simple,
strong, restful men and women, that make the best traveling companions
for the road of life. The men and women who will only laugh as they
put up the
umbrella when the rain begins to fall, who will trudge
along
cheerfully through the mud and over the stony places--the
comrades who will lay their firm hand on ours and
strengthen us when
the way is dark and we are growing weak--the
evergreen men and women,
who, like the holly, are at their brightest and best when the blast
blows chilliest--the stanch men and women!
It is a grand thing this stanchness. It is the difference between a
dog and a sheep--between a man and an oyster.
Women, as a rule, are stancher than men. There are women that you
feel you could rely upon to the death. But very few men indeed have
this dog-like
virtue. Men,
taking them generally, are more like cats.
You may live with them and call them yours for twenty years, but you
can never feel _quite_ sure of them. You never know exactly what they
are thinking of. You never feel easy in your mind as to the result of
the next-door neighbor's laying down a Brussels
carpet in his kitchen.
We have no school for the turning-out of stanch men in this nineteenth
century. In the old,
earnest times, war made men stanch and true to
each other. We have
learned up a good many glib phrases about the
wickedness of war, and we thank God that we live in these peaceful,
trading times,
wherein we can--and do--devote the whole of our
thoughts and energies to robbing and cheating and swindling one
another--to "doing" our friends, and overcoming our enemies by
trickery and lies--
wherein,
undisturbed by the
wicked ways of
fighting-men, we can
cultivate to better
perfection the "smartness,"
the craft, and the
cunning, and all the other "business-like"
virtues
on which we so pride ourselves, and which were so neglected and
treated with so little respect in the bad old age of
violence, when
men chose lions and eagles for their symbols rather than foxes.
There is a good deal to be said against war. I am not prepared to
maintain that war did not bring with it dis
advantages, but there can
be no doubt that, for the noblest work of Nature--the making of
men--it was a splendid manufactory. It taught men courage. It
trained them in promptness and
determination, in strength of brain and
strength of hand. From its stern lessons they
learnedfortitude in
suffering,
coolness in danger,
cheerfulness under reverses. Chivalry,
Reverence, and Loyalty are the beautiful children of ugly War. But,
above all gifts, the greatest gift it gave to men was stanchness.
It first taught men to be true to one another; to be true to their
duty, true to their post; to be in all things
faithful, even unto
death.
The martyrs that died at the stake; the explorers that fought with
Nature and opened up the world for us; the reformers (they had to do
something more than talk in those days) who won for us our liberties;
the men who gave their lives to science and art, when science and art
brought, not as now, fame and fortune, but shame and penury--they
sprang from the loins of the
rugged men who had
learned, on many a
grim
battlefield, to laugh at pain and death, who had had it hammered
into them, with many a hard blow, that the whole duty of a man in this
world is to be true to his trust, and fear not.
Do you remember the story of the old Viking who had been converted to
Christianity, and who, just as they were about, with much joy, to
baptize him, paused and asked: "But what--if this, as you tell me, is
the only way to the true Valhalla--what has become of my comrades, my
friends who are dead, who died in the old faith--where are they?"
The priests, confused, replied there could be no doubt those
unfortunate folk had gone to a place they would rather not mention.
"Then," said the old
warrior, stepping back, "I will not be baptized.
I will go along with my own people."
He had lived with them, fought beside them; they were his people. He
would stand by them to the end--of
eternity. Most
assuredly, a very
shocking old Viking! But I think it might be worth while giving up
our
civilization and our
culture to get back to the days when they